AskRebecca Question
My dear friend recommended your services to me. She had really wonderful things to say about you and thought it could be beneficial for me to email you a question.
I know it’s quite cliche but my question concerns the topic of love. I’ve never been in love nor have I ever known what it feels like to have another person love me in a romantic sense. In saying that, my question is why do I feel so unworthy of love?
Here is my info –
Name : J
Age : 29
Location : San Diego, CA
Thank you so much. I look forward to hearing from you!
Hi J,
There is nothing cliche about the topic of love. Everyone wants love, yet everyone fears love. Love is amazing. Our essence is love.
I’m certain you have experienced love in one way or another. You are just having a difficult time recognizing love for a few different reasons. Let me first say you are well on your way to experiencing love. Your awareness alone of the fact you feel unworthy of love is a huge catalyst towards your evolution in experiencing love.
Now I feel strongly your unworthiness stems from your childhood. Growing up you felt you had no voice, you felt as if what you had to share or express was not good enough because people in your life shut you down. Perhaps they didn’t listen or support something you believed in or didn’t actively participate or show interest in the things you did. I feel this began early on in your childhood with your parents and continued into your teenage years with your peers. It still plaques you to this day but you’ve taught yourself coping skills to help keep the loneliness and sadness at bay.
Your lesson in this lifetime is one of self love. You were born into this world with some karmic baggage. You’re carrying the load of unworthiness and feelings of not being good enough. Feelings and beliefs create your reality. Because you feel unworthy so strongly this is what shows up in your reality on a regular basis. Whether it’s overhearing the random guy/girl in the coffee shop talking crap about you or the co-worker whose ideas are no where near as good as yours ends up getting all the praise. Maybe even your parents, friends, bosses and strangers reject or trigger your feelings of unworthiness in some way. It all begins and ends with you. The Universe, Love, God or whatever higher power you believe in has no other way of knowing what it is you want to receive other than by the energy, feelings and focus you put out. So everything in your reality is you projecting outwardly. You have ALL the power to create with the love that exists inside of you.
It’s time to shift your perception. It’s time to realize you are worthy. It’s time to be honest with yourself about the insecurities that exist within you. Once you courageously face them, accept them and love them as part of you then you will begin to feel more confident in yourself. The more confident you feel, the more you’ll be able to love yourself, the more you love yourself the more love will show up in your reality. It’s time not to judge yourself based on what other people projected onto you long ago. It’s time to step outside of the box you put yourself in and start loving everything in your reality. Love your clothes, your job, your friends, your parents, your shoes, your boss, your co-worker but most of all practice loving yourself. You got this. You have amazing qualities. You’re funny, kind, caring, generous, smart and strong. Start speaking up when you normally wouldn’t, start saying yes to invitations you normally wouldn’t accept and start saying no to the things you don’t really want to do. Have fun. Be yourself. Get to know you. The more you empower and love yourself the quicker a soul mate connection will show up. Be open to receiving everything love.
When I connected with your soul physically overall you felt free and light. However, I felt a blockage in your throat. I felt some heaviness in your chest and some bloating in your belly. The blockage in your throat and the heaviness in your chest is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, fear of not being heard, fear of being unlovable, fear you have nothing to offer, fear of losing love. The bloating and weight in your belly is straight up sadness and rage. Deep deep down in your gut is rage….you’re pissed and angry about a lot of things. It’s okay, rage is a symptom of sadness. Allow yourself to become aware of the hurt that exists within you, allow yourself to feel your pain. Nothing to get attached to it just needs to come up and out. Cry. Cry. Cry. Punch a pillow. Get it out. I was able to release some of your energetic blocks. You will be feeling several things over the course of the next few days. Your emotions will fluctuate from feeling lighter, happier and excitement about tackling your journey of self love but you will also experience your sadness and anger. This is a good thing. The more you let it come up and out the more those empty feelings are replaced with love. If you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed with emotions take a hot bath or hot shower.
I want to thank you again for reaching out to me. My hope is I was able to help in some way to shed light on your particular question. Stay strong and positive. I would love to hear updates and how things are going for you in the future. I’m excited for you. You’re an amazing woman with lots to offer. Believe in yourself always.
,Rebecca
